The most popular response I get when people find out we homeschool is “Aren’t you worried about socialization?” To which I respond “Certainly. That’s precisely why we chose HOME education, because I don’t want my kids to learn their social skills from the pop culture in most schools.” They usually look very confused after this. If you are too, keep reading. I’ll explain.
Popular culture is strongly influenced by the worldly materialist perspective. That is to say, pop culture promotes selfishness over Godliness, love of things over love of people, and entertainment over learning. To train my children to think differently, I want their social center to be the home, not the peer group. In most school settings I have seen, the peer group’s major activities are sharing ignorance and fear, manipulating each other, parents, and teachers, and taking advantage of weaknesses in people and systems. Call me crazy, but I am confident I can train my children to behave, think, and learn better than that. I’m also confident that it will work, especially as my children interact with other kids. Why do I have such confidence?
First, I have confidence in the God I follow, who tells me to train my children in the way they should go, and that they will not depart from it. He also says discipline, correction, the influence of elders, delayed gratification, and learning from parents are all vital to their development.
Secondly, I have confidence in the examples of my parents, in-laws, and friends in the Body of Christ, who have proven God’s directions to be effective, even in the last thirty years. You may quarrel with my opinion, but you cannot refute the lives they have led and the results of their sacrifice.
Third, I have found that the most effective methods of teaching for any subject, any child, or any parents are to be found thriving prolifically in the freedom, creativity, and innovative thought of the homeschool community. Such methods are conspicuously rare in the fields of public and private education, and the contrast in student scores, teacher attitudes, and administrative philosophies between the home-educated and the school-educated is astounding.
In short, I believe God has charged parents to train their child’s behavior and beliefs, and I believe it will work because I have seen it work in many homes for many years. You can fulfill this charge without homeschooling…but it’s harder. You have to work harder, be more creative and vigilant, and you still teach them at home to counter the garbage of worldliness from school. Why not skip the frustration of unlearning all the wrong stuff and teach them the right things unobstructed? God says parents are the best people to train children’s behavior and beliefs, not their peers, not a government-indoctrinated young person with no children of their own, and not a psychologist crafting theories in a lab. Call me crazy, but I side with God.