Prison fail 2

Prisons don’t keep criminals off the street or motivate them to change their beliefs and lifestyle. Prison fail. But our prison system that drains resources and keeps criminals in a criminal culture is the natural next step up from the justice system in our schools and homes. Lemme ’splain.

In our schools, we don’t use physical pain as a deterrent; we use solitary confinement, or more often group separation, with some mental labor to pass the time. Hmmm…sounds a lot like prison to me, and it provides opportunities for the same problems to grow even sooner than prison. School fail. I don’t think this is the best we can do, or what God has in mind for the education and social training of our youth.

But wait, it starts before that. In our homes, we have shied away from physical pain as a deterrent, and we use…solitary confinement, aka ”time out”. We send kids to their room, or lecture them, or plug them in, or pack them off to activities, because if we keep them occupied all the time, maybe they won’t think to misbehave. Is it working? Are they building character and leading others to life? Are they choosing a righteous lifestyle because they believe God’s way is best? Statistics say…Home fail.

And do we administer discipline at all in our churches? How do we discipline kids in Sunday School, or adults in the congregation? We seem to have this idea that we should accept everyone just as they are, but we have forgotten that none of us is supposed to stay that way. We avoid conflict with each other, pretending it’s all okay, and we never open up. We need to get real, get ready, and get going (preaching to self) so the world will know our reputation for dealing with our own in grace and truth. Pastors who have affairs are one of the only places we see any discipline in effect in church, but Paul says for the church to handle discipline in other areas, such as legal and social issues, and not to outsource our authority of truth to the government as we have education. Church fail.

God’s way works: swift physical pain upon conviction, harsh enough that they don’t want to endure it again, and they will remember it when they are tempted. No delays, no emotional manipulations, no threats, no resources required, no immersion with others headed in the same wrong direction…it makes so much sense. Are we brave enough to believe it and are we tough enough to do it? You tell me, or better yet, tell your local lawmaker, commissioner, legislator, pastor, principal, teacher, spouse, relatives, colleagues…you get the idea. Just remember: it starts in the home, it grows in the school and the church, and it produces fruit in adult society. Plant good seeds, pull the weeds. God makes them grow.

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Mar 4, 2012: Finding the signs

This week, our ducks kept us on our toes. They have begun to lay their eggs in new places every few days. First, they laid eggs in random places in our yard, out in the open. Then it was the hollow on the north side of the basement wall, then the nook between the shelter and the fence, then the other end of the nook, then the hollow again, and then the former residence of the large duck shelter, which of course they have never actually used for shelter. But yesterday, they began laying eggs under the steps to the deck. God had me looking that direction or I would never have found them. It’s kind of a game, now, for me and my wife; where will the ducks lay them today? I hear them quacking maniacally (“They’ll never look here! Ah, hahahahaha!!”).

The Thermal Windows people come this week to replace our old windows with new efficient ones, and we can hardly wait. Our electric company will be getting less of our money, Lord willing. Nothing against the electric company, of course. As far as we know.

Amy baked a lot this week. She baked cupcakes for JB’s birthday. She baked a cake for dinner at my folks. She baked cornbread for dinner, made egg salad with duck eggs (YUM!), and stir fry on another day. Her cooking gives me reason to thank God for our food each meal.

Our peach tree has some beautiful flowers already, and our apple tree shows inches of growth from last year. We look forward to fruit, though it may take a few years of pruning for the trees to get strong enough. We hope to see some berries, too. Some other trees are putting out green leaves, and the chickweed needs mowing. (Groan) It doesn’t wait for you to be ready, although my wife really loves our riding mower. You should see her in fifth gear; just don’t get in her way. Maybe I can swing a deal…

I finally changed the oil in my Honda Civic, which is gray. The car, not the oil. My wife insists my car is purple because I always respond with mostly feigned indignation that it most certainly is not. I don’t want a purple car. But it isn’t primer-gray, so maybe she has a point. Don’t tell her I said so.

We went to an estate sale on Thursday, and bought a 17-ft extension ladder so I can make our insurance agent richer when I fall off. Just kidding; I’ll be careful. It will allow me to get some branches down from trees I have been itching to remove for almost a year now. We had about 3 severe ice storms over a period of less than 5 years, and they destroyed the tops and outer limbs of a great many trees in our area. Ours have not been tended to in some time. I plan to fix those trees, but good. You can tell ‘em I’m coming…and my chainsaw’s comin’ with me!

I’ve got a syndrome; I think it happens every spring. I feel overcome by a desire to clean and organize, especially if there is a lot of other stuff to do. This weekend, I reorganized and cleaned half of the basement, the half that has my tools and the kids’ toys for outside. It needed doing, but I spent the whole day doing it, and now I want to do more. The school cabinet is next, and we already did the video cabinet. And I want to spread the desire for neat cleanness to everyone in the house, to every room and surface! Hahahahaha!

Sorry, I get a little carried away sometimes. If my wife complains that she can’t find anything, or one our kids goes missing for days, or we have more stuff in the give away pile than in our closets…just know the neatnik gnomes have been at work. No clutter is safe.

James

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Happy Treasure Hunting

I have found humor to be where you look for it. Those who laugh most expect to find humor; those who laugh little do not expect to find it, and so do not look for it and do not recognize it when it finds them. I am deeply indebted to my Heavenly Father, who made laughter, joy, humility, and truth, and my earthly father, who showed me how to laugh, laugh often, and make laughter a natural part of life.

Dad loved reading comic strips, cartoons, misspellings, bad grammar, and all other manner of humor. He introduced me to Bob Hope, the Marx Brothers, Abbott and Costello, Red Skelton, Reader’s Digest, Dave Barry, Winnie-the-Pooh, Paddington Bear, and Lewis Carroll. And Mom was no stick-in-the-mud; Mom introduced me to Cary Grant, Lucy, Ricky, Fred and Ethel, Gilligan and Co., James Herriot, Sigfried and Tristan, Sweeeet Vi-o-lets, and Inspector Clouseau. We would spend Sunday afternoons with full tummies listening to Dad read funny things until we were ready for naps. It was a great way to wind up the week and prepare for the next one.

Then my wife and I discovered Bananas Comedy Club DVDs featuring Darren Streblow, Tim Hawkins, Jon Branyan, Nazareth, Bob Nelson, and Ken Davis. All are Christians and very funny. Our kids love to watch them, and start repeating them. Then we were introduced to Brian Regan (“Take…luck! You, too!”), and we would never look at a cup of dirt the same way again.

There are so many troves of good, clean laughter that there’s really no excuse for not chuckling if you want to. But there are dangers to watch for. Not all humor is healthy. Not everyone thinks laughter is good. Some things must be treated seriously, but it is vital to know which things.

See, the heart of humor is the truth that God triumphs, that our mistakes and goof-ups don’t bring a certain end to all hope. Triumph comes in spite of the silliness, the embarrassment, the destruction, and the awkwardness. Our weaknesses show: we startle easily, we lose our balance, we aren’t as smooth as we hoped, and it really doesn’t fit us like it should. And it’s okay. So we laugh, free from our pretention and pride and fearful costuming, and full of trust in God’s power to make it right.

The joy found in humor cannot be found in the same company as the raunchy and gross, the disrespectful and cruel, or the immoral and tasteless. Self-control makes everything better, and points to God, the author of all joy. Likewise, humor cannot coexist with fear, despair, or guilt. Studies have shown that fear and gratitude cannot coexist in the same mind at the same time. St. Paul admonishes us to put aside all coarse jesting and filthiness, and instead embrace giving of thanks. Comedians should all be applauding this encouragement instead of joining the opposition to it, as so many modern attempts at humor have done.

Flippancy is not funny, either. The Bible directs us to rejoice with those who rejoice, but to weep with those who weep. Humor must be kept in its place, just as sorrow, anger, and other emotions must be limited, or we will cause pain to those around us. Humor was not intended for that.

Laughter makes you healthier, according to the Bible, and studies back that up. So for health, blessing those around you, glorifying God, relieving stress, finding humility and faith, and strengthening your sense of gratitude, happy treasure hunting! Go find something funny…and then share the joy.

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Feb 26, 2012: Silly days are here again

The saga continues…

I’ve always wanted to say that.

Well, this week was somewhat less eventful, but no less of a blessing. It began with a day off of school for me (James), in which we celebrated Valentine’s Day with our homeschool support group. Imagine children of all ages loaded with sugar, running pell-mell around one of the meeting rooms in a community center while the Moms enjoyed each other’s company and retired men played billiards in the room next door. At least, that’s what I saw. We came home with enough chocolate to meet our acne needs for the next month at least.

The new HVAC unit (paid for by our home warranty) arrived in the morning, and took the whole day for a 3-man crew to install. Apparently, it didn’t fit the original setup as expected, so they had to make some adjustments. But they finished by the afternoon and now we have HEAT! Hallelujah! We are so thankful for a system that doesn’t have to run on overdrive all day. Our electric bills were way high, and we didn’t always stay warm before, but we sure do now.

Right after the HVAC guys left, we got some heavy rain and a fair amount of pea-sized hail. It looked like an army spilled their drinks from Sonic. Our ducks didn’t seem to mind, and they continue to lay their 4-eggs-a-day quota. I guess they’re happy; they haven’t sent a labor representative to negotiate for more feed and shorter hours…

My daughter and I worked on a design for her pinewood derby car for her American Heritage Girls troup project. We decided on AHG and not Girl Scouts because of AHG’s decidedly Christian perspective on leadership, not because of the cookies. My daughter then went to Grampa on Saturday to have him do the crafting and cutting. He added his own special touch: ball bearings in the body, sitting in holes made with the drill press, and held in place with automobile epoxy. Leave it to the engineer. Earlier that morning, I took the boys to Lowe’s home improvement store (aka Daddy’s Toy Store) to build the parent-child project they had: a NASCAR car made of…pinewood. Perfect; now everybody has one, and nobody has to fight over it. Can I get an “Amen!” from the parents of more than 1 child?

That same Saturday, a student of mine came by to help with some of our outdoor projects. I invite students once a month to a “workday” so they can get service hours for their school requirement, and we have a great time. Trent helped me haul logs and hay bails while telling me about his trip to New York City, and we built the first of our raised garden beds from 2×12 boards. We put my wife’s new elliptical machine (thank you, craigslist) in the basement, and began pasting pieces of sheetrock back together to fill in the hole in our kitchen wall left by the plumber who helped me (James) refix a leak from our upstairs toilet that was dripping into our kitchen cabinets…whew! That sentence took longer than the repairs. :) The details are in the previous post (Feb 19: 5 Blessings).

However, the leak is back, but it’s slower, so I guess we’ll call him back, or something. Stay tuned…(dramatic voice)”Is this the end of the dynamic duo? Tune in next week, same bath time, same bath channel!”

Also this week, I (James) installed a new light fixture on our ceiling fan in the dining room. We dined in the dim, and even went so far as to mount Christmas lights in the window and light multiple candles, but to no avail. That room was just dark.

“Pass the, um, whatever food that is.”

“That’s the vase of flowers, Dad.”

“Well maybe they just need salt.”

But now, we can see everything, and there’s so much more energy in the room. My resourceful wife found the light fixture at the ReStore, the Habitat for Humanity store that sells overstocks, and I checked online to make sure I knew what I was doing, and then installed it one afternoon. Of course, it had its unforeseen obstacles (JB weld on the plastic light-click housing, metal snips to remove an unwanted light bulb socket), but now it works great, looks great, and remind us that God is great.

After church today, I asked my son E.J. what his picture was; he told me “This is Jesus; He has a giraffe neck and he can tie Satan in knots with it. This is porcupine quills, and He can poke Satan with them. And He has a saw, so he can saw Satan.” Wow. That would be something to see. I don’t remember this picture from the book of Revelation, but I never saw Satan myself. :) After supper tonight, we decided to play games. After two simultaneous games of UNO, we told a story using the pictures on the faces of 9 dice (picture cubes). We took turns rolling the dice and telling a story that connected all the pictures shown on the dice. It was hilarious. By the end, we all were laughing and had all been very silly. It was a great way to end the week.

My wife has started seedlings, my father-in-law has a new motor for his tiller, and our crocuses have begun to bloom a beautiful gold-yellow. Spring is coming, and there is much to do: insulate the basement, fill the raised beds, cut wood (lots of wood), have a bonfire or two, change the oil in the cars, fix the leak (take #3!), and continue excavating our hill and woods. We’ll keep you posted on what we discover. See you next week.

J.T.

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February 19, 2012: Five Blessings

Wow! What an amazing week! God provides, and our friends are just amazing, and it’s affordable, and…okay, I better slow down and give some details. Lemme ‘splain about our most recent 5 blessings.

First blessing from God: When we first bought our A-frame, our very wise realtor, Chris Martin from Coldwell Banker, had the sellers purchase a 1-yr home warranty, that said if anything that came with the house, had passed inspection, and was working when we moved in, broke in the first year, they would replace it at minimal costs to us. Our HVAC unit (heat and air) was old, and we weren’t entirely sure it worked properly as we began to leave the hot summer and find cooler air. My wife’s instinct told her something was wrong. I couldn’t tell what, and the first repairman from the home warranty company couldn’t find much, either. But we prayed that if it was going to break or wear out, that God would smite it before the warranty was up.

It got worse after the first “repair”, and finally began making such loud intermittent noise that we couldn’t sleep on that side of the house. But since that side had all the bedrooms, we began running out of couches. After calling the home warranty company again, the repairmen took the whole thing apart and discovered a ton of problems. They told us the whole thing would have to be replaced, and all we had to pay was $300 for some parts not covered by the warranty. Huzzah! A new HVAC unit for less a tenth of what it would cost us to replace it ourselves, plus labor. God is so good. We had 1 month left on the warranty.

Next blessing from God: Our upstairs toilet began leaking into our kitchen cabinets several weeks ago (“Save the COFFEE!”), so we called our plumber friends for advice, and they said to replace the gasket and wax seal on the toilet, so I (James) gave it a go. I had done this once before on the downstairs toilet, so figured I knew what to do.  Well, I almost did.

In retrospect, using a jigsaw to cut PVC pipe already glued in place wasn’t the best plan. I left jagged edges, several of which were so low, water continued to leak after I made the repairs. Also, I will always remember to arrange the gasket so the toilet, after bolting, is flush with the wall, and not cockeyed like I did on this one. My gracious wife made the best of it all, still cooking delicious food without part of her kitchen. And our kids took turns using the one working bathroom without killing each other.

So after I finished, the leaks waited a few days, and then came back, worse than before, so we invited our plumber friend Aaron Davis and his family to our house and fed them lunch so he would help us with the leak. We redid the whole repair job, but with a nifty professional plumber tool that cut the pipe neatly, and now we have no leaks. We even had extra pipe ready-to-hand from rerouting the dryer hose weeks ago. I broke the blade on the jigsaw with that one, and then found out my reciprocating saw was a better tool. Oh, well; you learn from mistakes. God is good, my wife never said “See? You shouldn’t even try,” and all it cost was a few dollars for parts and a half-dozen duck eggs we gave them for their trouble. Plus we got to spend a day with good friends we hadn’t see in a while.

Third blessing from God: Thermal Windows of Tulsa is going to replace our old, single pane aluminum windows in all the bedrooms. And we can afford it! We weren’t sure after hearing the first few estimates, but after checking out several companies, we decided we could afford what Thermal Windows offered, and it would significantly reduce our electric bill and noise from outside. The new windows should be in before Spring is over.

Fourth Blessing: Our six ducks, a gift from our friends, Larry and Vicki Shead of Kansas, have continued to lay 3-4 eggs a day since January, providing us with a cheap source of protein and lots of learning. We have learned a little about animals mating, every parent’s FAVORITE thing to explain to their five-year old, feeding and watering every day means every day, and animals leaving their poop everywhere. We also learned that ducks are relatively low maintenance compared to chickens, who seem to need help remembering not to drown in a rainstorm. Seriously…they drown.

Fifth blessing: Okay, this one we had to hire out because my wife refuses to let me haul a chainsaw up a 50-ft pecan tree. I am not objecting. We have many large pecan trees, and some of them had large branches reaching way out over our nearly-new roof. With the memories of recent ice-storm disasters in our minds, we agreed with our wise realtor, and decided to get them professional trimmmed. Preaus Landscape of Tulsa did the hard work in single day, gave us a discount, and still finished in less time for less money than their original estimate. We like the Preaus family and got to know them from James teaching 3 of their 4 children at school.

All this to say that we love our home, our improvements came just when we needed them and God provided for all of them, and we have made some great friends in the process. This next week, James plans to redo a repair job he did taping insulation to ductwork – but this time, he has tape that will stick (we hope). We also plan to use high-school students to help build raised garden beds. We’ll let you know how that turns out in our next post, and remember that God is good…all the time.

James and Amy Thorpe

 

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A-frame in a flood plain: homesteading in unusual circumstances

We have a weird house. It’s in an unusual place. We do odd things to it. Good thing we are a little strange, too. Lemme ‘splain.

Our house is an A-frame, which means the slanted roof is so long it makes up two of the walls of the house. This makes arranging furniture against the wall something of a challenge in some rooms. Hanging pictures also requires more advance planning than a regular house. It means we have potential storage space in the walls, but only below waist-height. It means we have to lean as we go up the stairs because you can hit your head on the wall/ceiling when you turn at the landing between the 1st/2nd floor and the 2nd/3rd floor.

Ordinarily, an A-frame roof reaches all the way to the ground, but our house sits between two creeks in a flood plain, so our basement sits up above the ground so it won’t flood as much. Can we even call it a basement? The two living floors of the house sit on top of it, so we have actually three stories, but one is a basement and we only live in two of them.

So we have a A-frame, but not a normal one; we have a basement, but it’s above ground…totally. Our front door is on the second floor, and our cars won’t fit through the door of our basement/garage. Are you mixed up yet? We were for a while, too.

Thankfully, we know what to do with our house and our land. God granted us a house full of dreams and potential, and we keep getting ideas about every week of something else we can do to make the house and land even better for God’s purposes. This blog will chronicle events, projects, ideas, and directions that God gives and we do to our lovely, strange, bizarre, perfect-for-us A-frame in a flood plain.

“The goal of homesteading is to live deep and not wide”, to quote George Nash. It means depending upon industrial processing less, and doing as much as you can for yourself. It means recycling/reducing/reusing to the max. It means you go to church more often than you go to the store. Okay, that last one is our own version of homesteading, but you get the point. We try to make what we need instead of buying it ready-made, reuse and repurpose what would ordinarily be thrown away, and learn how to do things ourselves with help from others, rather than hire it out. The goal is to be a semi-independent homestead, able to be nearly self-sufficient within a community. Of course, you have to have the right schedule, the right equipment, the right skills, and the right help to pull this off. We are trying to get there in stages, and this blog will tell our story. We hope it’s good reading.

Now, we don’t do this for the reasons many have advocated: going back-to-land, shrinking our carbon-footprint, barricading ourselves against the end of the world, and so on. We don’t have an axe to grind. We used to live in a middle-class suburban neighborhood, and no one would have thought we were planning to leave it all.

But God put a dream in our hearts to live away from the city, away from pop culture and worldliness, and close the natural world, in a home that would offer peace and refreshment to others. Plus, we just really like homegrown food, and we get a lot of satisfaction living this way. We hope you will be able to glean ways to find the same satisfaction in God and not in the world.

James and Amy Thorpe, February 2012

 

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Help for enduring, believing, hoping all things

In our 12 wonderful years of marriage, we have been blessed with sound Biblical teaching every time we needed it. And did we need it! Wow; it’s amazing how much you can learn, no matter how much you know (or think you know). Here are the most important influences in our marriage as it grew and continues to grow:

Parents: Sometimes you wish you could change things about your in laws, but our parents celebrated their 39th(Jerry and Charlene) and 37th(Sam and Chrissy)  anniversaries in 2011, and that says a lot. My wife and I always knew you just didn’t get to give up on your spouse, no matter what. We came into marriage with that attitude, and it has made all the difference. Plus, they continue to support our marriage and have developed healthy relationships with me and my wife, which makes our commitment even stronger. Great thanks to all four of you for sticking it out.

Friends: Couples our age who have been through the same battles we face, and haven’t given up are a source of encouragement(Jeff and Wendy, Drs. Nick and Christy, Jay and Amanda). Couples a few years beyond us who have faced new challenges, and found joy and satisfaction in spite of hardships help us believe in ourselves and remember to enjoy the seasons of life (thanks Dwayne and Dee). We draw particular inspiration from friends remarried who are determined to work it out and never give up (Aaron and Leah, Daniel and Betsy, you guys rock!). We also remember those friends who got married when we did, and divorced before getting where we are. We know we are not invincible and we have an enemy who hates a good marriage, and that keeps us alert. We don’t take our success for granted or for our own credit.

Church: We have been blessed to attend several churches in our marriage, and all of them have loudly championed marriage under God from a realistic and hopeful perspective. Marriages have always been celebrated, fought for, supported, and worked through in every body of believers in Christ we have seen. And we need it. We need the accountability, the vulnerability, and the examples that other marriages in the Church provide. You can’t do this alone. Your own strength, perspective, experience, and will are not enough. You need other people in your married life.

Books: Wow, where to start? Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus, by Dr. John Gray, was a good general awareness book for me, especially about emotions and communication.  The Act of Marriage, by Tim LaHaye, should be read by every engaged man days before his wedding. Reforming Marriage, by Douglas Wilson, frees the wife and empowers the man to lead. Wild at Heart, by John Eldridge, explains so much of why fairy tales and the Bible are the best pictures of man and woman. And it invites men to be men. Love and War, also by Eldridge, draws marriage deeper into the spiritual battles and triumphs of a marriage, with lots of practical tools and examples. Men are like Waffles, Woman are like Spaghetti, by Bill and Pam Farrel, explains even more about the sometimes frustrating-for-no-good-reason dynamics of married life. The Five Love Languages, by Gary Chapman, helps your efforts to love your spouse be more effective and understood. Without these books in particular, we would not love each other as willingly nor understand our marriage as clearly. Proverbs 4:7 – “Wisdom is supreme; therefore get wisdom. Though it cost all you have, get understanding.” Your marriage will change over time, and the uninformed will be unprepared, as our enemy desires.

Marriage Conferences: Nearly any large gathering of couples trying to improve and strengthen their marriages has to be a good thing. These are also great places to find books, movies, and other materials to maintain the momentum when you return home to reality.

Dates, Vacations, and Getaways: You need these. Life takes a lot out of you, and you must learn how to recharge together. You need stories to tell, memories to recall, funny and touching things that only the two of you share. These help you remember why you married them, and show you how much you and they have changed for the better. You must continue practicing the pursuit of each other. And your kids need to be around other adults…so they can appreciate you more. :)

Movies: If you haven’t seen Fireproof or Courageous in theaters, go rent them. They  show examples of good marriages founded on Christ living in our world that Hollywood knows nothing about. It’s not about happily-ever-single-with-no-commitment, it’s about happily-only-after-the-wedding, and the adventures don’t stop there.

Our marriage is a direct reflection of the many people who have poured their knowledge and effort into us. We benefit from their work, their mistakes, their perspective, and their kindness in sharing with us. Thank you, God, for these, your faithful servants, and thanks to all of you who shared God’s plan for marriage with us.

We highly recommend marriage to all our single friends.

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Follow the King to freedom

Dr. Reverend Martin Luther King, Jr. is rolling over in his grave. After God Himself, Dr. King seems one of the most often misquoted, misunderstood, and misapplied men of faith in the United States. Consider:

To celebrate his legacy, a parade was held in a major city under the theme of “All Races, All Genders, All Religions…” etc. Now Dr. King did believe in equality under the law, but that’s very different from uniformity or universal tolerance. Dr. King was not a gay-rights advocate, nor did he advocate any religion outside of Christianity. Let’s examine his “I have a dream” speech:

“I have a dream…that one day…all of God’s children, black men and white men, Jews and Gentiles, Protestants and Catholics…will sing…’Thank God Almighty, we are free at last!’ ” These excerpts do not point to universalism, Hinduism, dualism, Islam, or any other religious distinction outside of those who follow Jesus. And Dr. King wasn’t a feminist; neither was his wife. Where did the parade organizers get the phrase ‘all religions’ and ‘all genders’ unless they have an agenda?

The truth matters. Dr. King stood for equality of legal and political opportunity and the protection of rights. He did not stand for letting everyone do what they like and calling it fine. He did not stand for the removal of moral standards or the sentiment “why can’t we all just get along”. He advocated character above all else as the standard of evaluation for an individual, character as measured by God’s word, not human relativism. He stood for absolute truth, for discrimination. Yes, I said it. Dr. Reverend Martin Luther King, Jr. based the standards of his life on discrimination.

He knew no one could live by all perspectives, so he chose one – he chose to believe in God and follow the Bible. He had to discriminate against other possible worldviews and reject their assertions of truth completely in order to follow Christ.

He also discriminated against various methods of protest and political change. While some advocated violence, he believed in suffering rather than inflicting suffering. Some advocated reverse discrimination, and still do using his name and reputation; Dr. King’s speech does not favor “Black Power” or any other group having oppressive power over another. He was against slavery in every form, no matter the master. Where was this message in the parade? Oh, yeah, it won’t sell. Somehow, I don’t think the good doctor would be impressed. Some of his followers have misinterpreted, misapplied, and misused his message to bring about the opposite of what he intended…sort of like Jesus and some of His followers.

The Bible says that God is not mocked; we will reap what we sow. We cannot be hypocrites, for Christ or Dr. King, without serious consequences. The truth sets us free; twisting the truth makes us prisoners, and we know where Christ and Dr. King stand on that one. See Isaiah 61:1-3 and the “I have a dream” speech. Read what they actually said. You might get freed.

 

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Even my wind and sea

In the Gospels, Jesus awakes from sleep to rescue his disciples by calming a violent storm with a few words: “Peace! Be still.” His disciples, awestruck, ask “Who is this, that even the wind and the sea obey Him?”

The wind and the sea have often been described in feminine terms. Positively speaking, these two elements reflect the graceful undulations of the female form, her ability to gently caress, the calming, soothing quality of the mother’s voice, and the playfulness, deep beauty, and mystery of a woman.

Negatively, both elements reflect the sudden, sometimes violent changes in women’s emotions, the destructive power of an angry woman, the complex and sometimes confused insides of a woman’s mind, and her rebellious, insubordinate, uncontrollable side.

Now, if the God of all Creation can calm a storm of wind and water with words, what effect can His words have on the emotional storms that plague us all, particularly women? Can all the loneliness, despair, guilt, fear, doubt, worry, self-loathing, depression, anxiety and self-destruction that all women endure be calmed by the words of the Master of wind and sea? Just imagine His voice: strong, authoritative, calm, confident, full of love and mercy…

“Come unto Me, all you that labor and are heavy-laden, and I will give you rest.”

“Cast your cares upon Me, for I care for you.”

“I will never leave you, nor forsake you.”

“Nothing can separate you from my love.”

“I will supply all your needs according to My riches and glory.”

“Trust Me with all your heart, and do not lean on your understanding. Acknowledge Me in all your ways, and I will direct your paths. ”

All women, and all the men and children who love them, can join the awe of the disciples, saying:

“Who is this, that even the wind and the sea obey HIM?”

Even my wind and sea…

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Power of the Dark Side

Among my Christian brothers and sisters, I have noticed a disturbing trend. Christians seem to be very juvenile and immature in our methods of handling conflict, especially with each other. I’m talking about churches, Christian schools, and other explicitly Christian organizations in which we display blatant anti-Christian behavior when people don’t behave as we expect. We take the Holy Spirit’s role as convictor because God isn’t acting quickly enough for our tastes. Here are some popular attempted solutions:

First, we try to gently correct in love…we say to ourselves, while we actually condescend, trying to make the other person in our image instead of learning God’s purposes for them in the organization, and in our own lives.

Next, we ignore them, or try to hide them away where they can’t be a public relations headache, and make sure the “important” patrons don’t go their way.

If we feel too threatened, we might find an excuse to fire them, persecute them, or exclude them. If not this brave, we might just speak ill of them when in conversation with others, planting seeds of discord that grow into resentment.

Above all, we don’t go to the person to learn their story, and we don’t put ourselves in conflict’s way. Oh, no, we don’t fight…and we don’t say we’re sorry for what we do instead. We accuse, we stew, we complain, and we whine, and then we manipulate, cause suffering, and avoid responsibility. God is not pleased.

Now, I have to say that I am as guilty of these things as anybody. I have witnessed myself, my family, and my friends suffer betrayal, dishonesty and deception, exclusion, and condescension at the hands of their Christian friends, family, and coworkers. I have also witnessed myself, my family, and my friends commit the same sins toward others. How grieved God’s heart must be.

But fear not, true believers: there is hope.

We must place God’s approval higher on our priority list than the approval of men, even financially supportive men. At its root, the fear of offending patrons is rooted in a lack of faith in God’s promise to provide. We believe that if the human source of provision packs up and leaves, offended and frustrated, that God can’t or won’t provide a replacement source of provision.

Fear is also at the root of our pathetic passive-aggression when faced with potential conflict with a colleague or fellow-believer. We seem to value the shallow pleasantries of casual relationships over the messy, ugly, difficult, beautiful authenticity of doing life together. If we really valued an authentic Christ-centered community, we would call each other out when we observe a behavior uncharacteristic of Christ. If we do what Christ did, and speak the truth in love, we have nothing to fear.

Even with fears, we can still follow Christ’s example by honestly admitting our fears to ourselves and then making decisions based on God’s word. Our decisions should be led by the Spirit, not by the flesh’s feelings, wants, insecurities, and fears. When we wrong, we ask for forgiveness. When others wrong, we forgive. We must be prepared to do both on a regular basis. We must ask, seeking the truth, not accuse and assume we already know all we need to know. We msut allow ourselves to be corrected before we seek to correct others. Christ Himself came to serve, not to be served. Christ is calling us…out.

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